I was once at a home birth when the concern of doing an internal exam came up. I had done one about 4 hours before which showed positive substantial progress of labour and I thought the baby would be showing more signs of imminent delivery by now.
But she refused.
So instead of scaring her into letting me force my hand inside or getting upset with her for not allowing me - I consulted my intuition.
I went quiet.
I observed what was happening around me.
I plugged myself into a higher and divine energy.
I opened my heart.
I sat in prayer for guidance.
I opened my path to receive information and messages.
I observed what was happening around me. I stepped out of my mind and I observed what thoughts were "telling me" to do this examination.
I saw - The time protocol drummed into me with partograms willed me to plot this time “deviance " by doing an internal.
But I was not keeping to hospital protocols here - I was working with other factors in sync with the mother, baby, contractions and environment. A homebirth has shown me again and again that the partogram limits and restricts and labels or causes pathology when there is none. My observations of her labour, baby and her reassured me.
These were my thoughts:
- It was now morning and neighbors were waking up - her mother and the close-knit community would be wandering why the baby was not here yet.
This was opinion. Not fact. And since when is social pressure a factor in intervening? (You may be surprised how often in fact, but not for this one.)
- It was her third baby so it “should” have been quicker.
Opinion again. Not fact. Haha! How often has this one been proved? Third babies surprise!
- I wandered how my own young son was and if I needed to get back home.
Yes, one of the challenges of balancing motherhood and midwifery. I had made my choice my son was in good hands and I was at this birth now.
None of these had any real impact or anything to do with her health, the birth or the babies health or well-being.
In actual fact – the necessary factors were all very reassuring:
Surges were coming regularly and powerfully with time to rest in between. The fetal heart rate was excellent. She was in “her zone” and in her own power and control.
I felt light, clear and connected. I prayed for guidance and a healthy birth like I do at every birth.
I trusted her.
I trusted me to know when to interfere.
We watched and waited. Soon the crowning started and she delivered a healthy boy into her arms.
She went completely at her own pace. Feeling and following her own body. She did not tear at all. I knew she was very connected to her body and I knew she would know if something was going wrong and so would I.
They don't teach us intuition or anything about connecting and using it in medical school. They should. We all have it and use it subconsciously anyway.
It may be the most important tool we own in our birthkit!
How did or does intuition enter your birthing work or your own birth experience? Please share in comments, I would love to hear.